Thanks to Samantha we may be getting some much needed answers. I'm very seriously investigating Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). A good deal of the info I've found today points to my daughter. I just ordered a book about it and I'm hoping it helps make things much clearer. At this point I'm relieved to think this isn't all in our heads or a complete break down in parenting skills.
I really believe Samantha's comment on my post about The Incredibles was an answer to prayers. It seems there may be a light at the end of the tunnel.
Even if this isn't what we are dealing with with BabyGirl, at least we have a direction to look in. Please keep praying.