So, did you make it through yesterday without saying anything negative to or about your husband? Areyoukiddingme wanted to know if thinking counts. For now I have to say no. There are many, many times when I'm screaming in my head, but keeping my mouth sealed firmly shut. I think that alone may save my marriage.
Don't get me wrong, I fight with my husband, but usually it's about stupid stuff. That's what I'm trying to curb here. And I think that after 30 days of biting my tongue (which I had to do more than once yesterday) & being positive to & about him at all times, my attitude will follow suit. That's my prayer anyway.
I'm also going to add another stipulation: good natured teasing doesn't count. 'Good Natured' being the key words here. Husband & I tend to pick at each other. We joke & tease & pick but never viciously or with evil intent. We both know (most of the time) where the line lies & we don't cross it.
Today's challenge is to praise him for his willingness to serve others. How does he help you out? Does he wash dishes? Bathe the kids? Read a bedtime story? Help with dinner? Keep your car in running order? Work long hours to provide for his family? Let him know you see what he's doing & how he's serving & that you're thankful for his work.
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In other news, I'm waiting for Daddy to get here. He & QM were supposed to come up this week to visit here & at Grandma M&M's, but QM isn't feeling well so she stayed home. Daddy called me a while back & said he had just crossed the river into Indiana so he should be here in a little more than an hour. I'm very excited! The only member of my immediate family I saw at Christmas was Bubba, so I'm ready to see Daddy.
So I'm off to pick up the mess that is my kitchen! Have a good Sunday!
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My husband called today to check and see what kind of peanut butter we were using. He was concerned that it would be part of the salmonella issues. He's always good for looking out for our welfare. I managed to tell him so too!
Interesting challenge.
What works for me with hubby and others (and I've taught it to hubby) - assume that your partner means the best. You love him. He's a good egg. But sometimes we all say something without thinking or do something without thinking. It's human. So when something irks me - I think,"He probably didn't mean that the way I'm looking at it." It really helps.
I think it's easy when you have kids (or not) to start treating your partner like a kid, too. They don't need teaching or fixing.
Saying you appreciate the folks in your life gets easier with practice, too.
Being married the second time around with a 15 year hiatus, I do appreciate things that other wives take for granted. So I try to remember to say it. And he has picked up on that and does the same.
You are a better man than I...A quote that just ran through me head.
Although not actively accepting this challenge, I shall try to be nicer.
It makes me wonder, what nice could I say, as his snoring drowns the sound of my computer.
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