Yesterday I made disparaging remarks about my best friend's husband. Today I must apologize. Oddly enough, I chatted with him via e-mail last night. I haven't communicated with him in... Years I think. He was on another blog site and I stumbled upon him. We had a rather interesting conversation that I won't go into here. Instead I will say I was unkind when I said he was not good at being a person.
Actually he (I'll call him S.P.) is potentially a great person. A fantastic father, a loving and kid husband, a strong Christian, and a loyal and reliable friend. I've seen him be all these things. I've seen him roll in the floor with his kids. I've seen him dress up like Batman to thrill his nephew. I've seen him weep openly because he was so very much in love with his new bride. I've seen the pride in him when he was the single bread winner for his family. I've seen him so excited about speaking to a group of teenagers about his battles and his love for Christ. I've seen him silly and happy and protective and kind and caring and strong.
Now I see him lost and alone and struggling. He hurt one of the people in this world dearest to me and that makes me so very angry. He hurt three beautiful children although that was not his intent. He hurt his parents and her parents and many friends. Now, I know that it takes two to make a marriage and two to break a marriage. I'm not saying that there weren't things Art did wrong, but to be fair and objective S.P. is the one who made the final decision to leave.
This is a sad situation, but it wasn't fair of me to say the things I did yesterday. I am sorry. I only hope he finds what it is he's looking for in life and that he would be the father I know he can be. If you're a praying person, please pray for Art, S.P., and their kids. They need it, as do we all.
5 comments:
You are an amazing woman,Humble Pie is not so bitter when you eat it with regret, and yes I'll keep your friends in my prayer's.
Forgivness is one of the sweetest gifts that God offers. Not one of the easiest gifts to open and use. But once used, it brings a sweet peace to our souls.
It takes a big person to forgive and be accountable. Good for you. Good for you to recognize everyone goes through tough times and that during those times we aren't necessarily good people: maybe that's the case with him.
That is so terribly sad for everyone involved. And when you see a friend in pain, you share that pain with her. It's impossible not to.
Hey sweetie, Thanks for caring so much and seeing him through my eyes just a little. Continue to pray for him as he struggles along. I love you soooooooo much.
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